That's a charming and ambitious goal! While I can't guarantee "love" – that's a complex human emotion far beyond any data model – I can definitely show you how to use a "LIST TO DATA" approach to understand someone better and build a more meaningful connection.
This strategy is about mindful observation, genuine interest, and thoughtful action, all organized in a way that helps you notice patterns and respond effectively. It's not about manipulation, but about being a more attentive and responsive individual.
Here's how to apply the "LIST TO DATA" framework to gather insights and foster connection:
Phase 1: The "LIST" - Observational Notes & Conversations
This is your raw input. Instead of just letting moments pass, consciously (and discreetly!) list to data gather information.
Source: Your interactions, their social media (public only!), shared friends, their expressed interests, how they react to things.
Examples of Raw "LIST" Items:
"They laughed really hard at that silly joke."
"Mentioned they love hiking and the outdoors."
"Said their favorite coffee is a flat white."
"Seemed a bit stressed about work on Tuesday."
"Talked about how much they miss their pet."
"Expressed strong opinions about a certain movie genre."
"They complimented my shirt last week."